031 Lighter on the scales and lighter in the heart | Caroline Silk

Women are particularly guilty of putting everyone and everything in front of themselves and leaving their health on the back burner
— Caroline Silk -

As a mindset nutritionist Caroline gets real about how our mindset affects our whole wellness journey.  We talk about creating a calmer, happier more positive mindset by working through negative emotions and limiting beliefs that stop up from being the healthiest version of ourselves.  Caroline provides really practical tips to support you on your wellness journey.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Caroline  

Caroline Silk

We spoke about 

  • Finding your passion vs what keeps grabbing your attention

  • Shifting to a positive mindset

  • Creating the space to change limiting beliefs

  • Positive outcomes as a result of changing our mindset

  • The benefits of mindful eating and tips to get started

  • A fabulous story of transformation without obsession over food

  • Changing the way you go to sleep and it’s quality

  • Caroline’s tips for living fabulously

Value Quotes 

“If your mindset is in a negative space and you think you can’t do this then your subconscious mind is very strong and it will say ok she doesn’t want this to happen”

“If you have a positive mindset and you say how can I do this better, this is going to happen for me, I can be a well person, I can be fit, fabulous and healthy…”

“Women are particularly guilty of putting everyone and everything in front of themselves and leaving their health on the back burner”

“Drop the emotional baggage of those big negative emotions of anger, fear, hurt, sadness and guilt”

“It always needs to be for them first… they have to want the change for themselves for it to work”

“You need to keep your mind as a quiet place as you go off to sleep”

“It’s learning how to eat mindfully that you can take with you wherever you want to go and you can do it with alcohol and your food”

“If you have a positive mindset at the beginning of each day it’s a positive way to start your day”

“Surround yourself with people who are going to bring you positive energy and they are going to support you and support your journey is enormously important” 

“Taking care of herself was an act of not only achieving dropping the weight and her business thriving but also being calmer, happier and more confident” – Bev Roberts

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I have some really exciting news I want to share with you! I will be writing my book in the first quarter of next year. Woo hoo I was accepted on the 90 day book writing course with Kathy Miles Wheeler and will be supported by the fabulous Karen Gunton, she's a coach and author of the Lighthouse Revolution.

So in order to achieve my dream of writing a non-fiction book I will be moving to fortnightly shows in 2017.

I would like to take the opportunity to thank you for being such a fabulous listener and I wish you and your loved ones a safe and happy festive season.  May joy, peace and love be yours in abundance.

Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!  

Episode Links  

You can find Caroline Silk at:

Website: http://www.carolinesilk.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thebalancedapproach/

You can download Caroline’s free Mindful Eating guide here: http://www.carolinesilk.com/mindful-eating-guide/

Kathy Miles Wheeler: http://www.bookwritingmagazine.com/

Karen Gunton: http://www.karengunton.com

030 Knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you | Glyn Conlon

I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on
— Glyn Conlon -

We all know what it feels like to have a prickly conversation or not feel heard. Glyn Conlyn is a highly experienced coach and trainer who specialises in non-violent or compassionate communication.  She promotes communicating simply and easily to allow others to more clearly hear our communication.  Glyn works to build understanding in relationships between friends, couples, families, in the workplace and with partners in business. 

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Glyn

Glyn Conlon

We spoke about 

  • The role of a certified non-violent communication trainer

  • The impact of conflict and not being heard from the playground to the workplace

  • Ideas on allowing for time to speak with truth

  • What compassionate vs violent communication are

  • The benefits of compassionate communication for self and others

  • Why knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you

  • Improving your overall ability to resolve disputes

  • The 4 step process Glyn teaches for compassionate communication

  • Your attention and intention in the moment

  • Getting oneself out of a downward spiral in 5 key steps

  • Glyn’s many tips for living fabulously

Value Quotes 

“I’m really careful about telling the truth with care which is different to out and out honesty.”

“What I’ve realised with compassionate communication is that you don’t need to have the quantity of time but you need to know how to access the quality of communication”

“You make a time to put effort into your relationship”

“Everyone is acting from trying to meet a need”

“Personal power, confidence and competence is within everyone’s reach”

“It allows to you understand yourself without judgement and to understand others without needing to agree”

“I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on”

“It’s amazing that it’s possible to correct what led to the problem in the first place and prevent future conflicts by doing this”

“If you have that intention to connect that’s really important”

“Surround yourself with others that listen deeply and are not morally judging your thoughts and actions”

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Episode Links 

You can find Glyn Conlon at:

Website: www.keystoneskills.com.au

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nvciskey/

 

029 Focus on having a great life | Clarissa Rayward

Put simply the pace of life coupled with a number of other things at the moment is creating a lot of havoc for a lot of people. It’s something we really need to start addressing, thinking about and making shifts in how we live so that we can be well and live as long as we can
— Clarissa Rayward -

When I heard Clarissa’s key note speech at the We are Podcast conference recently I was moved by the statistic that 1 in 3 lawyers will struggle with depression, anxiety or some form of a mental health challenge at some stage in their career.  As Clarissa rightly says we consult a lawyer at our most difficult and stressful times in our lives so professionally lawyers are dealing with conflict and negative situations daily.

Clarissa’s journey as the “happy family lawyer” began in 2013 when she started writing a blog which has become a vehicle to not only create a shift in herself but to also to make a difference in her profession.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Clarissa  

Clarissa Rayward

We spoke about 

  • Shifting focus to be a happy family lawyer

  • Some of the drivers for the rates of depression in legal professionals

  • Jerome Doraisamy’s experience as a law student and his quest to help others

  • Creating a supportive environment in the work place

  • Key elements to disengage from work

  • The impact of the pace of life on our wellbeing

  • What success looks like for Clarissa and how this differs to traditional legal measures

  • The value of self reflection

  • Supportive practices for living a happy life

  • Clarissa’s book “Happy lawyer, happy life”

  • Enjoying the relationships in your life

Value Quotes 

“I try and work with family’s in a way that keeps them outside of traditional court processes and gives them the best chance to move forward after a divorce with some semblance of a relationship intact”

“To open up a conversation around how we can live better as lawyers, manage the stresses that come with being a professional in this space and ideally try and reduce the statistic”

“We hear a lot of the phrase in our industry of ‘compassion fatigue’, where dealing with these difficult moments and tragedies all the time starts to rub off on our mental health as well and makes it more difficult for us to cope”

“One of the things that I think is really important to our mental health, wellbeing, just our capacity to live life well is rest”

“Rest comes in a number of different ways. Rest is nightly sleeping and many of us don’t get enough sleep on a day to day basis but rest is also the capacity to disconnect from your job”

“That seems to be another one of those big precursors to depression and anxiety as I just can’t disconnect and enable my mind the time it needs to heal itself”

“Put simply the pace of life coupled with a number of other things at the moment is creating a lot of havoc for a lot of people. It’s something we really need to start addressing thinking about, and making shifts in how we live so that we can be well and live as long as we can”

“We can get very caught up in other people’s success stories and their own markers of success rather than pausing and thinking what does it mean for me, what is important to me, what do I want to look back on at the end of my life…”

“Trying to have a positive mindset and seeing the world from a place of opportunity”

“I think you can be a great lawyer but it’s probably more important to focus on having a great life”

“Taking the time to allow yourself to enjoy the people around you, your family, your good friends, whoever it is. Make sure you make time for that stuff.”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links

You can find Clarissa at:

Website: www.thehappyfamilylawyer.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thehappyfamilylawyer/

Clarissa’s interview with Jerome Doraisamy on overcoming anxiety and depression: http://www.thehappyfamilylawyer.com/podcast/episode-6-overcoming-anxiety-depression-jerome-doraisamy/